When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things. – 1 Corinthians 13:11 One of the parts of modern life that I find most disturbing is the gradual infantilization of adulthood. People’s life…
Tag: Manliness
How does a mature man approach rules and principles?
I’d like to share some thoughts on the relationship a man has with rules throughout his life. How do we first encounter rules? What is the difference between a rule and a principal? What is the mark of a mature man in this context? Children start out without any rules or sense of boundaries, possibly…
How To Make A Good Apology
Apologizing is an important life skill. Done properly it can repair and strengthen your relationships by building trust. But it’s hard to get right. Most people can smell an insincere apology a mile off. At best an insincere apology will look like you are going through the motions but don’t really understand why what you…
Do you know who your people are?
“There are two questions a man must ask himself: The first is ‘Where am I going?’ and the second is ‘Who will go with me?’ If you ever get these questions in the wrong order you are in trouble.” –Sam Keen Masculinity has taken many forms in many cultures, but the core of it is always…
What is relationship polarity?
“Stand true to your calling to be a man. Real women will always be relieved and grateful when men are willing to be men.”–Elisabeth Elliott I recently read the book The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida. The book is a series of 51 rules and explanations of those rules, designed to help…
Is Toxic Masculinity a real or helpful concept?
Today we hear terms like ‘fragile men’ and ‘toxic masculinity.’ If you are a young man you will hear those things not only out in the world, but even sometimes in school. This leads to the danger that young men will start believing that these are true descriptions of masculinity. There are a lot of…
What is the minimum athleticism a man should maintain?
We know that strength and endurance are valuable for many reasons. Of course strength and athleticism are part of health. They are also a part of your mind and personality. Mind, body, and soul is often a false distinction as each aspect of who you are affects the rest. Being healthier and more active affects…