I haven’t seen any of the old Disney movies – the pre-2000 movies I mean – in decades. But I had heard about them. Specifically I heard that these movies used to teach girls to be helpless princesses who need to be rescued by men, and that we needed more modern stories for our girls. …
Tag: Maturity
What are some childish reasons not to have children?
When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things. – 1 Corinthians 13:11 One of the parts of modern life that I find most disturbing is the gradual infantilization of adulthood. People’s life…
The Wedding Isn’t For You, And Other Thoughts On Tradition
Recently, I was talking to a friend of mine. He’s getting married soon, and is getting a little tired of the process of planning the wedding. He told me that he’s not sure that it is worth it because he doesn’t know how much more he would enjoy the ceremony than simply eloping or doing…
What I Learned From A Year Of Travel
I spent most of this past year traveling the world with my wife as part of a time off work. We were taking a sabbatical before we start the next stage of our lives – having children. We spent almost 9 months in Latin America, Europe, and Asia. In total, I’ve spent about 18 months…
How does a mature man approach rules and principles?
I’d like to share some thoughts on the relationship a man has with rules throughout his life. How do we first encounter rules? What is the difference between a rule and a principal? What is the mark of a mature man in this context? Children start out without any rules or sense of boundaries, possibly…
Are dignity and self-respect different from self-esteem?
When I was a kid self-esteem began to be promoted in schools. A lot of adults seemed to have a problem with it, but almost nothing is more conformist to the next idea than education. It’s a part of teachers’ identity to always be doing the next thing. So it stuck. At the time, I…
When you shouldn’t use humor
Nothing is a greater impediment to being on good terms with others than being ill at ease with yourself. – Honore de Balzac The amiable is a duty most certainly, but must not be exercised at the expense of any of the virtues. He who seeks to do the amiable always, can only be successful…
How you can avoid being a divorce statistic
“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.” – Mignon McLaughlin “You want to set a goal that is big enough that in the process of achieving it you become someone worth becoming.” – Jim Rohn In previous times, divorce was unthinkable. While recognizing that this was probably too…